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Can you tell if someone has had sex?

Can You Tell If Someone Has Had Sex

Wouldn’t it be convenient if you could tell someone’s sexual history and degree of risk just by looking at him or her? But there is no sure way of knowing if someone has had sex before.

People used to think that all women bled the first time they had vaginal intercourse. So the belief was that you could know you were having sex with a virgin if she bled. Though some people still believe this, it is not true for all women. Some women do not bleed from their hymen the first time they have sexual intercourse. If a woman does bleed, sometimes it is only a few drops of blood that can be overlooked. We also know there are other ways of being sexually active aside from sexual intercourse between a man and a woman.

So there is no sure way of knowing if a woman has been sexually active. And there is no way of knowing if a man has had sex. We only have the person’s word.

This is why it is so important that you talk to your partner and ask questions about sexual history. It’s also important that you are honest with your partner about your own sexual history.

Finally, before beginning a sexual relationship, it is important that both of you are screened for STIs or STDs (sexually transmitted infections or diseases) and that you are honest with your health care provider about your sexual history so that you can learn how to lower your risk for STIs or STDs.

If you are sexually active or are considering becoming sexually active, we want you to have all the information you need. All of our services are confidential and provided at no cost to you. Call us or leave a message in the comments below.

Eva Fisher

Eva Fisher

Nursing Director (BSN, RN, FCP)

The content on this page has been reviewed and approved by our Nursing Director.

LivingWell, Pregnancy, Sexual Health

Can I Have Sex While I’m Pregnant?

Sex While I'm Pregnant As long as a pregnancy is considered “normal,” it is safe to continue having sex in a mutually monogamous relationship up until your water breaks or you deliver your baby. Under certain circumstances, your doctor may advise you to modify your sexual activity or abstain from sex completely, so it is important to receive good pre-natal care from an obstetrician.

Will sex hurt my baby?

Your baby is protected inside the strong muscular walls of the uterus and surrounded by amniotic fluid, so sexual activity will not affect your baby.

Will sex cause a miscarriage?

No, not if you have a normal, low-risk pregnancy. Miscarriages generally happen because the baby is not developing normally.

What about oral or anal sex? Are those safe?

Oral sex while pregnant is safe. Whether you are pregnant or not, it is important to make sure that, if you are receiving oral sex while pregnant, your partner does not blow air into your vagina. Rarely, this can cause an air embolism (a blood vessel blocked by the burst of air), which could be life-threatening for you and the baby. If you have anal sex, it is very important not to follow anal sex with vaginal sex because this could transfer bacteria into the vagina and cause an infection.

Can sex trigger labor?

In a normal, low-risk pregnancy, sex while pregnant will not trigger labor. It may cause mild uterine contractions, but these usually are temporary and harmless. In spite of many DIY labor-inducing tips suggesting that sexual intercourse can trigger labor, studies indicate that having sex at the end of your pregnancy will not induce labor.

How do I protect myself and my baby from sexually transmitted infections or diseases (STIs or STDs)?

If you are not in a mutually monogamous relationship (each of you having sex with only each other) or if your partner may have an STI or STD, you are at risk for an STI or STD. The only way to completely protect yourself and your baby is to abstain from all sexual activity. If you’re pregnant or think you’re pregnant and you have questions, feel free to leave a message in the comments below or call us at 530.272.6800 for an appointment. All of our services are confidential and provided at no cost to you.

LivingWell

Yes, ALL of our Services at LivingWell Medical Clinic are “FREE”

LivingWell Medical Clinic and Community

Many times when someone visits LivingWell, they are surprised to hear that all of our services are “free”. Well, actually they aren’t free, they cost quite a bit. But we are committed to providing them at no cost to our clients. Here are six reasons why LivingWell is able to do that.

People in our community care about you

At LivingWell Medical Clinic, we affectionately call those who support the services at LivingWell our “partners.” They truly are partnering with us to bring hope and encouragement to everyone who walks through our doors. We have thousands of partners from Nevada County, and beyond, who believe in you and provide funding for your services. When we’ve asked our financial partners why they give, we are repeatedly told that they give because they believe in the vision and the mission of LivingWell to inspire hope for those with unexpected pregnancies and sexual health decisions. This financial support underwrites our various programs and services such as pregnancy tests, STI testing, ultrasound exams, and community education.

We don’t depend on government funds

LivingWell Medical Clinic is 100% privately funded by our partners. Many of our partners have been with us since our inception in 1985 and many more join the team of LivingWell supporters annually. Because we do not rely on the federal or state government, our services will continue regardless of the finances of the country. Any grants we receive come from private family or business foundations and have funded our ultrasound system purchase and community education program.

We are part of a giving community

In addition to the financial support received, we have a group of partners who give material goods of baby blankets, diapers, and clothing items so that you have needed items during and after your pregnancy.

We have a volunteer team of over 500 individuals and businesses who donate time and materials for our various functions and needs. These volunteer hours make it possible for us to provide quality services at no cost to those who need them.

Our thrift store provides funding and materials

LivingWell Thrift Store provides further funding for the LivingWell Medical Clinic through the sale of generously donated items. Donated material goods at the thrift store are also made available to our clients through our voucher program. The vouchers allow families with children to receive clothing and other material needs free of charge. LivingWell is currently clothing over 1800 women and children throughout the Nevada County community. The main goal of the thrift store is to be able to provide for the true needs of our clients.

We have amazing partnerships with local businesses and churches

LivingWell Medical Clinic is able to offer our services free of cost because of all the Nevada County businesses and churches who donate thousands of dollars of funding and discounted services every year to our clinic. Currently we have 65 businesses and 33 churches in Nevada County that support LivingWell in one capacity or the other.

We have former clients who are now giving back

Although we don’t expect it, or ask for it, women and men who have needed our services in the past have returned to contribute to others. On many occasions we receive notes such as this, “I had some extra money and wanted to share it with you because of what you did for me when I needed it most. I want to help other girls who might be facing the same obstacles that I did three years ago.”

Yes, at LivingWell Medical Clinic our Services are “Free”, but you won’t believe it because of the service you’ll receive.

Yes, our services are “free”, but the atmosphere that greets you when you walk through our door is professional and filled with hope. If you ever need a pregnancy test, STI testing, or after abortion assistance, we’re here for you because of the generous support of our community.